Healthy Relationships

Not Feeling Loved This February?

February 4, 2022

It’s the grayest time of Indiana’s year. Even though it’s the month touted far and wide as one for love and cozy, warm cuddles, it might feel chilly to anyone who’s unpartnered. 

It can be tough to get through winter even if you don’t suffer from seasonal depression or winter blues. Dating apps and sites are always a possible go-to, but most of us know how that ends, especially when the wind is whipping, the sky is dark, and the last thing you want to do is meet a stranger for dinner. So, what’s a single to do? 

Get out of your sweatpants

Sure, they’re cozy and warm, but the reality is you won’t feel your best if you don’t at least play the part. We don’t recommend too much retail therapy, but a trip to the mall to purchase a new outfit may help. Some self-love in the form of feeling attractive is a great way to get out of a slump. Need something even better? Why not swap the sweatpants for some hip workout gear? 

Get moving 

Movement is a key to a healthy body and mind. In fact, chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine, which are released during physical activity, are the best kind of cocktail, one that genuinely boosts your mood! Exercise has also been proven to increase brain size, improve memory, help you nail down a restful night’s sleep, and reduce anxiety and depression. Hancock Wellness Center is a great place that’s close to home to start getting your groove on with an impressive group of exercise classes, state-of-the-art equipment, pool access, and a price that fits most budgets. 

Get into your head

Want to boost your mood even more? Try out mind-body therapies such as meditation, yoga, and tai chi. Once you get your blood pumping with movement, coming to rest with one of these ancient practices can be helpful to your overall emotional well-being. Mindfulness practices offer the chance to turn inward, find your center, and feel balanced. Even if you’re a beginner, you can find plenty of help in apps like Headspace and Calm as well as classes at your local Hancock Wellness Center. Who knows, maybe you’ll get your next great idea, more self-confidence, or a vision of who you want to be in five years, from your mindfulness exercises.

Get creative

Being single may not be how you imagined spending winter nights in February. But instead of watching another romcom this season, put down that remote and pick up a new hobby. It’s the perfect time to explore something that’s on your list to try. Whether that’s learning French, painting with watercolors, knitting a hat, or scrapbooking, now’s the time to dive in.

Websites like SkillShare and MasterClass offer thousands of fun course options to engage you in new and exciting material. If you’re looking for something more unique, check out Atlas Obscura for courses on everything from the art of lockpicking to cheese history and taxidermy. To keep loneliness at bay, start a book club, crochet circle, or a monthly potluck with recipes from around the world. No one ever said you had to spend February alone just because you’re single!

When all else fails, get sweatpants

Rest is just as important for mental and physical health as being active and socializing. So don’t throw away the sweatpants. You’ll need them after your busy day of work, Zumba class, book club, and maybe an online cheese-making webinar. This winter, take some time to find the best balance for you so that when you emerge from your sweatpants cocoon and gracefully walk into the beautiful green of springtime, you’re ready to show the world your best self.