Keep Bonding With Your Teen

In today’s world, it’s not easy being a teenager. Sure, you probably had plenty of bad days when you were young, but the internet can overwhelm today’s teens with a near-constant stream of information (much of it negative), plus the pressures of social media—not to mention the sheer weight of growing up into the person they’re supposed to be. And while it’s  normal for children to want boundaries while they develop, that doesn’t mean you need to stop bonding with them entirely. Read on to learn some tips and tricks for meaningful connection with your teenager.

Everyone’s life is different, and the lives of teenagers are marked with a lot of change—puberty, social dynamics, friendships, classes, and some may even be moving out for college soon or getting jobs. 

Dr. DeLynn Williams, an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist with Hancock Health, says one of the most important things you can do for your teen during this tumultuous time is to simply meet them at their own level. 

“Show up, listen without judgment even when it’s hard at times, and show interest in the things they like,” Dr. Williams says. “Let them know that they matter.” 

But sometimes, bonding with your child isn’t as simple as watching their favorite show or asking about their day. Sometimes—and particularly in this stage of near-constant changes—your teens may need a little extra help. 

“As parents, taking care of ourselves is one of our greatest tools. We have to sleep well, eat well, exercise, and ask for help when we need it,” explains Dr. Williams. “Parents can encourage these good mental and physical health practices by encouraging it in their own behaviors. 

“We have to show empathy for others. And most importantly, we have to be advocates for our kids. One of the greatest feelings of success comes from when I see my teen patients have parents who support their mental health journey and let them know they are loved no matter what.” 

Asking for help isn’t always easy as an adult. But for teenagers who are craving independence and are learning their place in the world, asking for that help may be even more difficult than you realize. So watching that K-pop music video, or listening to that Dungeons and Dragons podcast on your way to class, or getting really into the Indiana Pacers this season may not seem like a big deal in the grand scheme of things, but for your teenager, knowing they have a parent who supports their interests enough to engage will go a long way. 

And if you worry you aren’t equipped to help your teenager with this season of transitions, Hancock Health is here to help talk you through it. You can find a facility near you and schedule an appointment for your teen, yourself, or the whole family. 

The first step can sometimes be the hardest one, but even just by reading this article, you’re making the right moves toward a healthier, more positive relationship with your teen.